Every marriage goes through tough seasons. Whether it is money troubles, family strife, job stresses or just the changes we experience growing as people, life can cause tension. Those tensions often turn into fights and as all married people know, disagreements can go from a little tense to explosive if we aren't careful. So how do we keep that from happening? Well it turns out there is a Godly way to fight with your spouse! And Pastor Todd Wagner of Watermark Community Church is here to tell us the 4 things to remember when fighting with our spouse. Aside from being a pastor, Todd's real expertise on this topic comes from being married for over 30 years and raising 6 kids with his lovely wife Alex. So what does he recommend for keeping your disagreements God-centerd?
Principle #1 Seek God's Will Together As Husband and Wife
Pastor Todd has one powerful reminder for this one, slow down! Take a breath and remember that you and your spouse are joined together as one and only working together can you truly seek God's will and resolution.
Principle #2 Go To Your Spouse First
It is so tempting when things are stressful at home to go to a friend or family member to complain about your spouse. But that is so harmful! In order to resolve things with the focus on the Lord make sure you take up your disagreement with your spouse first.
Principle #3 Give Your Spouse Permission To Bring Others In
Now this may seem like it goes against principle #2, but this one only happens when you have tried to talk to your spouse and they aren't hearing you or you can't come to an agreement. But the key here is to wisely select who you bring in. Now is not the time to grab that girlfriend who never liked your husband. Now is the time to seek Godly council from friends who have your marriage and God's word in their best interest. Which leads us to the final principle.
Principle #4 The Goal Of Marriage Is To Pursue Oneness
If you are surrounding yourself with Godly support and taking time to slow down in the heat of disagreement and remember the love you have for your spouse you can disagree but still keep God in the center of your marriage. The more focused you are with your spouse in becoming one with each other and with God the stronger your marriage will be. Have you tried these techniques when disagreeing with your spouse? What helps you keep your fights Godly?
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